Make up Your Mind Already!

Posted by Kayla
having trouble making a decision

Every kid does certain things well and other things, not so well. I used to think that decision-making just wasn’t Lesley’s thing. Somewhere I had read that a parent should give choices where the decision’s outcome solely affected the child. Would you like orange juice or apple juice? Do you want your sandwich cut into triangles or rectangles? Lesley never took these choices lightly. She pondered the benefits of pulp-free, calcium-fortified orange juice, and she finally concluded that sandwiches cut into triangles tasted better. As decisions became more complex, she thought harder … [Read more...]

Why Good Manners Matter to Your ADHD Teen

Posted by Brock
Good manners and etiquette for the ADHD child

Learning to be polite and consider the needs of others shouldn’t be a hardship – even for a 14- year-old teen diagnosed with ADHD-inattentive. Your teen may not clamor to learn about manners any more than she clamors to memorize algebraic formulas, but she stands to greatly benefit from both types of knowledge. As a parent, you may find that you often return to the role of the take-no-prisoners manners police: “Don’t talk with your mouth full….Take your baseball cap off…Hold the door open,” etc., etc. The good news is that most teens behave better for someone else – … [Read more...]

A Roadmap for traveling with ADHD

Posted by Brock
traveling with ADHD kids

It's Thanksgiving time in the United States, time to travel. Although the refrain of "over the river and through the woods" has transitioned to "over the highway and through the tollbooths", no matter how far you roam, travel is an adventure. Traveling with ADHD kids, however can turn into a misadventure - if you're not prepared for it. Here are a few tried and true tips for traveling with your favorite ADHD child(ren)... 1. Timed Travel. Perhaps because their brains are all over the place, ADHD kids like the comfort of a routine. Traveling usually means they are off that routine and a … [Read more...]

Joe’s Reading!

Posted by Kayla
kindle for adhd

Wonder of wonder. Joe is reading. He's deployed at the moment, and boredom may have something to do with it, but I suspect that the biggest difference is that he bought a Kindle! Once again, electronic devices have won out with him. Have any of you tried a Kindle with your ADHD child? … [Read more...]

Timing’s Everything for an ADHD Child

Posted by Kayla
Red Shirting for ADHD

Kayla may have shared with you about how she almost kept Mike out of kindergarten for a year to let him start a year later. She and I have been discussing this issue lately because many kids (ADHD or not) benefit from maturing a bit before they start their school careers. What Mike ended up doing was taking a gap year after his first year of college. It looks like Kayla’s instincts about holding him back a year were accurate – he just ended up taking the time a little later than anticipated. We have our own timing story. When Lesley was 4, she started kindergarten in Maryland. It … [Read more...]

Brock and Lesley

Posted by Kayla
Brock Myers

Like Kayla told you last week, I'm Brock Myers, and I'll be writing a good bit for adhd-inattentive.com. I have a 14-year-old daughter who's ADHD inattentive, and like you, I've gained a lot of valuable tips by reading Who Put the Ketchup in the Medicine Cabinet? This newsletter has allowed me to learn so much from other parents! I love the new focus that Michelle shared on the blog when she started seeing "how ADHD is really a gift and not a deficit." It's so true for Lesley who's the youngest in our family. (Her brother Edison is in his second year in university, and her sister Olivia is … [Read more...]

Timers for ADHD

Posted by Kayla
triple tell timer

Looking back over the last ten years, one piece of equipment keeps showing up - the TIMER. Timers have been essential in our house. There are all sorts of timers - free ones on the computer or your microwave. Timers that come as a function on a watch or a cell phone. iPhones have special timer applications. There are visual timers, timers that buzz/flash/beep, timers that sing. (Here's a whole page of reminder clocks.) We've used timers for all sorts of things - like on Halloween night we set the countdown for 30 minutes and let the kids eat all the candy they wanted. That is NOT a … [Read more...]

What We Did Wrong…the Tip of the Iceburg

Posted by Kayla
tomato

After I posted ADHD - What We Did Right yesterday, it showed up on my Facebook page. I got the most glowing comments - all of which would have gone to my head had I not know that - today was coming. So here it is...my tip of the iceburg list of all the things that I did WRONG. Trust me, this post would be way too long if I listed them all. Yelling, inconsistency, throwing a tomato (yes I did), not taking supplements, talking about it too much...Sigh. I'll depress myself if I think about it. So here are three of our TOP mistakes. Not Learning Together - Since at some point Ron did assume … [Read more...]

Help Your Child Make Friends

Posted by Kayla
making friends and social skills

When we think about ADHD, we often focus (no pun intended - promise) on the attention issue. But I've often addressed the fact that attention is just the first of the challenges our kids face. Often their struggles include social issues. They may be too shy,too forward, too quirky, too active, too - whatever. But the fact remains that they end up on the sidelines, the last chosen for a sport, the uninvited guest to the party. It's so hard somtimes for our kids to make friends. Many of us have been in their shoes. You yourself may know what it’s like to be a painfully shy child or teen. … [Read more...]

Clocks for ADHD

Posted by Kayla

When Ron was in his second year of college, he signed up for his first 8:00 class. This was a huge deal for him, as he has always been a chronic oversleeper. Lots of ADHD kids are. Nevertheless, I quit waking him up while he was in high school; when he oversleeps, it's his problem. (He has walked the four miles to school.) At the beginning of college, Ron simply scheduled later classes. But one semester a class he really wanted to take was only offered at 8:00. So he signed up. To make sure he wakes up, he has set THREE alarm clocks and his cell phone. He also has asked my husband to check … [Read more...]