The most inattentive of our inattentive boys once said that his attention was like an oscillating fan. Bright, artistic, forgetful, self-absorbed, creative, exasperating, determined, spacey…he could be the poster child for ADHD-I. His first year of school, he went to kindergarten without his backpack for days on end – and suffered the consequences. One day, we pulled out of the driveway before he realized he wasn’t wearing a shirt.
When he turned 18, however, he had matured so very much that it was almost sad. He began to carry on articulate conversations with us, his friends, and (the real shocker) other adults. He discussed his future. He began volunteering at church, playing basketball, and fixing things around the house. He got his first steady job, working at a local dry cleaners. It was a great work situation – the owners like hiring students and helping them succeed at their first job. But the best part is that our son displayed terrific employee skills. He was always there, on time, and was spoken highly of by the customers.
The pay was decent, too. In fact, our son saved enough to buy his first car – with cash. He actually bought said car before he got his license. You’ll have to guess why…but let’s just say the people at the DMV knew us quite well.
But turning 18 didn’t solve everything. On the first day of his Senior year of school, he drove to school for the very first time. He left one hour before school started, to beat the traffic. It was a very mature thing to do, trust me.
About five minutes after he left, he returned home.
What was wrong?
“I forgot my backpack.”
Some things never change.
Although I suppose we should give him credit for wearing a shirt.