Good Grade Wall

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Our kids run into so much negativity from other people, from situations, and - admit it - from their own head! And while we *do* have to be firm with our kids, we have to set expectations and dole out discipline, we should still be a source of support and encouragement. That's why I LOVED what one of our Facebook friends shared her "Good Grade Wall". Here's what she said: Since our daughter struggles so much in school due to her ADHD and multiple Learning Disabilites, we are always looking for ways to let her know that with extra work and putting the time in she can achieve … [Read more...]

Perpetual Thankfulness…Keep it Going!

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You've probably seen a number of posts saying "I'm thankful for....." Personally, I love reading them, because thankfulness changes us. It allows us to see the glass half full instead of half empty. Thankfulness allows us to remember what we might otherwise forget or take for granted. I believe our perspective positively changes when we realize the gift a new day brings. Rainy day? What a great day to stay inside! Fog? What a fantastic special effect for our Facebook pictures! Hail? Hmmmm. I’m thankful it doesn’t hail every day?? You get my point – there’s always, always … [Read more...]

Make That Acceptance Speech Early: Thanking People Who Made an Impact on Your Child

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“I’d like to thank the Academy, my mother and my wonderful first grade teacher……”) Are you counting days until the end of school? Before you start prepping for that end-of-the-year party, let’s pause and think about gratitude for a moment. Now would be a great time to express thanks to people who made a positive impact on your child this year. Your child’s teacher is a good person to start with. A sincere handwritten note is a rare treasure, but email certainly conveys your sentiments. In our children’s lives, I can count several individuals who brought out the best in them. I’m … [Read more...]

Inattention to Feelings

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Have you ever met a person who has no capacity for empathy? I have a friend that absolutely cannot understand how others can have a different opinion that she does. I don't like crafts. I'm telling you, she absolutely thinks I am brain deficient because I don't enjoy cutting out little tiny color coordinated pieces of paper for a scrapbook. Truth is, many of our children are like my friend, making them appear insensitive, stubborn, or even dense. One of my boys, in particular, has little capacity for feeling. We've tried to foster a bit of sensitivity in him in several ways. First of all, … [Read more...]

Today’s God Sighting

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Brock: Like Kayla, I'm from the deep South, but you may have gathered that our family lives outside of the United States. I can't say where, but let's just say that it's a place that takes bureaucracy to a new level. I just got back from picking up Lesley's prescription. I'm stunned because I actually have a 3 month supply. The way prescriptions work here is usually -- we see the locally born doctor who is approaching retirement. He clucks and can't believe Lesley's not put on weight. (Evidently the study of genetics never enters his mind.) He'll ask a few questions -- he can't understand … [Read more...]

Attitude of Gratitude

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It's an old story with updated technology. A shoe salesman landed on a tropical island. He felt the warm sun on his face and took off his tie. Then he saw the barefooted natives. How could he sell shoes here? He whipped out his i-phone and sent the message back to the home office: "This territory you assigned me is a big mistake! No one wears shoes here!" And within 24 hours, he was on a plane back home. Shoe Salesman #2 landed on the day his competitor left. He was so excited when he saw the barefooted natives that he sold every pair of shoes in his suitcase and text messaged his boss. … [Read more...]

Encouraging an ADHD Child

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Let's face it. ADHD can be discouraging. Even though they're wonderful, our children often end up feeling less than perfect. They march to a different drummer, their problems often overshadow their successes, and their sense of overwhelm often eclipses the simple joys of life. How do you encourage your ADHD child, and help her to develop and maintain a positive self image? Share in the comments below. Homework can be one of the most discouraging times for our kids. Find out how to "Wake Up from the Homework Nightmare". … [Read more...]

An Encouraging Word – And ADHD Success Story

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It's always so encouraging when readers send in success stories. Here's a great one*. Our oldest, an eighteen year old boy, has matured so much in the last year. A little over a year ago, he wasn't that connected to the youth group, hadn't found his spot, he was at a deadend with school and gravatating to "friends" who were probably only good for providing him with self medicating products which we were watching extra closely. Then he lost his best friend, who died from an accident a year ago. Since then, we found (no - God led us to ), an amazing sports program that started out being for … [Read more...]

Manners and Self-Esteem

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My aunt is widowed, and when my grandmother passed away a few years ago, she needed an escort to the funeral. Mike, who was fifteen, volunteered to be the man of the hour. He was really pleased with the opportunity - especially since it meant he could ride in the limousine! He was very interested in being the perfect gentleman, so we let him practice opening doors, putting a lady into a car, helping someone into a pew, and walking with someone on his arm. Knowing manners and basic etiquette gives our children a boost of confidence, and an edge over most of their peers. Hint: In our casual … [Read more...]

The Power (and Peril) of Praise

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A longtime friend and subscriber forwarded an article to me recently entitled, "How Not to Talk to Your Kids - The Inverse Power of Praise". In a nutshell, the article states that in order to be truly effective, praise needs to be specific - and true. I recommend that you read the article, which cites research which sort of blows holes into some of the long standing beliefs we have about the way we build self-esteem. That's why we praise our kids. "You're so smart...clever...interesting...beautiful..." I do it. You do it. But is it truly helpful? Could it even be counter-productive? The … [Read more...]